Danish Khan Yousafzai: October 2014

Tuesday, 28 October 2014

Dating yourself (If tired of Being Single)

Its for all those people who are thinking that "I am alone & not getting best staff in life". Girls and boys you can love your self if you want. The universal truth is that if you want others to love you, you have to love yourself first.

Let me preface this piece by saying that I’m 24, I’m single, I haven’t been in love in years, and I haven’t gone on a real date in months. And I’m happy.

When you start dating yourself, your mindset shifts. Rather than define your own self-worth based on whether someone else swipes right at your photo or whether someone else wants to go home with you, you determine your own self-worth based on how you’re spending your time. You can commit to personal projects, set aside time for self-reflection and self-care, and discover new career aspirations. Instead of simply going through the motions, you’re in the driver’s seat of your own life.

If you’re struggling with online dating or stressing about being the only single person at your friend’s wedding, my recommendation is to spend a few weeks dating yourself

Treat yourself.

Take yourself out on your perfect date. Go out to your favorite restaurant, order exactly what you want to eat. Buy yourself a new shirt or pair of shoes. Go to the bookstore and buy a new book you’re dying to read. Take yourself to a show this weekend — music, theater, comedy — whatever you love most. Go to a movie by yourself and sit in the exact seat you want to sit in. Go on an adventure to a place you’ve never been before.

Take care of yourself.

Go for a run. Dance when feel happy. Meditate. Cook your favorite meal. Order delivery and eat it in bed. Wake up early and read a book that has been sitting on your shelf for months. Stay up late and watch episodes of your favorite show.

Create yourself.

Write a blog post or facebook status. Write a short story. Take a letterpress class. Paint. Draw. Take photos. Make a short film. Learn to code. Learn a new language. Come up with a business idea.

Engage yourself.

Find a friend working on a project that interests you and see how you can get involved. Volunteer in your community. Push yourself outside your comfort zone by going solo to a happy hour, party or event that sounds fun. Start a group meet-up for an activity you love like yoga, cooking, poetry, or graphic design.

See, being single isn’t so bad. If you’re in a relationship and jealous of all the fun us single people are having because we’re dating ourselves, you should be jealous. Don’t worry, it’s not permanent.
I’m not telling you to give up dating forever. I’m not telling you to abandon your life-long goal of being an amazing parent.

I’m just saying that dating yourself for a little while might help you discover who you are and what you want. It might help you stop worrying about what other people think of you and start thinking about how you want to spend your days. It might inspire you to explore a new passion or find a new job. It might give you the time to launch the project or embark on the adventure you’ve always dreamed of.

If you’re lucky, dating yourself might even bring you closer to the person you’ve been looking for.

Love / Danish :)

Monday, 27 October 2014

Road to NAYA PAKISTAN

On October 7, 2014 Tuesday while I was traveling to Islamabad with my dearest friend Mussa Wazir & Azizullah bangash (patriotic symbols for youth) to join Azaadi March. Patriotic songs, cloudy weather, little rain and Passion at peak, One can’t get better than that; it was more than amazing, beautiful because 1st time I was to join any political event.

I heard a lot that government blocked the roads and placed container all over, this was the 1^st time I witness that it is more than 100% correct. There was only one way to join the Azaadi March & it was to walk over a narrow 2 feet pipe way, which was over the sewerage line, but our passion was that much we didn’t back off and along with a lot of families we cross it. As I heard the voices from Azaadi March I felt that we are almost there. We pass through walk gate and the searching was done by two very youngster of PTI. As we enter in Azaadi March for few seconds I was trying to catch all the people by single eye which was very impossible I realized after. Within few moments heavy rain started we got wet within one minute I said to Mussa that I think people will leave and stop coming, he just give me a smile and said these are Azaadi k Parwany (& I could forgotten that Parwany to jalny k leye betaab hoet hay roshi se itna payar hota hay they even don’t care about their life). This statement was proven right, proven latterly. What I witness there I can’t write in words because in dictionary I was completely unable to find words which can do justice with the seen I witness there. People were setting on the road, some of them on grass, few within tents, & most amazing part was the girls, they have faces painted with PTI flags & standing tall to show the world that this Pakistani for you If you want some come get some. Few old people with their families were standing one side of stage and smiling, cheering the Azaadi moments, the Azaadi songs by DJ BUTT in the background was enough to motivate youth & allow them to celebrate these great patriotic moments. And yes how can I forgot that Atar (Pashto dance) on Pashto music “Waya Waya da Pukhatnu sandary Waya”, within moments Mussa and Azizullah joined them and stared Atar, I wish I could but I didn’t know how to do Atar. People didn’t care the heavy rain fall & hungriness, even I was so hungry (realized later) but at that point of time all the senses, emotions was beaten by only one slogan “Banega naya Pakistan” every one there was just for Corruption free, Terrorism free & respected Pakistan. There were People from all over Pakistan with different language, cultures, and dressing but with one stance which was “Naya Pakistan”.

For that second I looked up in the sky and watching the rain drops falling on my face, which cause me to blink my eyes for few times Waooww…!! Being a trainer and someone who has great believe on “Emotions create motions” it was great moment. I mentored more than ten thousand youth & I witnesses practical implementation of my heavily quoted example (in my trainings) which was “Quran says “Allah ne os qoom ki halat nae badly jissy apny hallat badalny ka khayal na ho” and yes I felt that “Aj Khayal agay hay” and that thought “Khayal” is enough to beat the bloody and corrupt politicians of this country. As I was having little smile on my face due to what I was witnessing & suddenly my mind recalled one sentence which was “Ay Allah shukar hay tu ne meri qaum ko jaga dia” I was witnessing exactly the same sentence than I saw in the sky, rain drops on my face, all wet and said loudly “Khan Sab you did, IK you did the impossible, you absolutely did this miracle”, a nation which is deeply sleeping since 1947, you awaken them and now they are standing in the heavy rain in front of Prime minister house despite all the tuff time they faces and facing now, asking for every reason why country is suffered & suffering.

At this point of time someone may think that I am bias, but let me know you that yes are absolutely right I am not Bias I am the Bias but not for a political party not for few people but for #PAKISTAN for change and against this corrupt system. I believe what you think is good you should stand for it. For all those who are saying that “I don’t have any political views” “sorry to say but you all are dead people. Livings have views and courage to share & stand.

This was my 1^st ever participation in any kind of political event. But for me it was not just a Dharna but a campaign of #AZAAD Pakistan, Unfortunately I was not part of the greatest campaign of all time #Azaadi #Movement #PAKISTAN under the leadership of Quaid azam, I was not there when Quid had said great words at minar e Pakistan Lahore, I was not there when Iqbal was spreading his precious words and motivating the soul of Muslims for Azaadi, and yes I was even not there when world witness that people strive for a cause and the dream came true on 14^th August 1947 when Pakistan rise on the word map. Bad luck I was not there due to my late birth but you know I am lucky enough to participate the remaking of Pakistan. As least I am satisfied enough that I have putted my single drop in sea of Naya Pakistan. Thanks to all mighty I am part of this Naya Pakistan. I was not lucky enough to stand with dynamic personality like #Sir #Syed Ahmad Khan, #Alama #Iqbal and #Quaid #Azam but I am lucky enough to stand with Imran Khan which is the real hope for Pakistan. Pakistan needed a leader after Quaid azam finally we got one. #Respected

In the last I just say one Sentence “Zulam krny wala, Zulam senhy wala and Zulam dekh k khamoosh rehny wala sab braber (zalim) hay. Thanks to Allah now I am not in those, are you?

Love / Danish

Trainer, Author, Activist

Tuesday, 21 October 2014

Mind and Heart (The Ideal Partnership)

Mind and Heart (The Ideal partnership)

It says partnership is the most important thing for any long and successful inning & I realized this thing yesterday when I was robbed while traveling to my home. The robbers used their minds brilliantly, no doubt about that. but what about their hearts? Yes you are absolutely right. They didn’t take their hearts on board while doing this coward act. That’s why they didn’t even feel about it. Before showing their talent, if they had asked their heart to be part of this, the answer would have been “I have feelings for people, brain can misguide you but I cannot”.

Same is the case, when we show great sympathy with our loved ones on whom we invest our time, energy, thoughts & resources. In the same case, we never use our minds which may tell us that “Hay, think for a while before getting into too much, because you will never get your expectations satisfied”

So this incident made me think of this ideal partnership between mind and heart.

A human can’t be human until he has this partnership. This means that whatever & whenever you are doing in your life, in order to be human in that you must consider heart and brain on the same piont of time.