Dating yourself (If tired of Being Single) 

 

Its for all those people who are thinking that "I am alone & not getting best staff in life". Girls and boys you can love your self if you want. The universal truth is that if you want others to love you, you have to love yourself first.

Let me preface this piece by saying that I’m 24, I’m single, I haven’t been in love in years, and I haven’t gone on a real date in months. And I’m happy.

When you start dating yourself, your mindset shifts. Rather than define your own self-worth based on whether someone else swipes right at your photo or whether someone else wants to go home with you, you determine your own self-worth based on how you’re spending your time. You can commit to personal projects, set aside time for self-reflection and self-care, and discover new career aspirations. Instead of simply going through the motions, you’re in the driver’s seat of your own life.

If you’re struggling with online dating or stressing about being the only single person at your friend’s wedding, my recommendation is to spend a few weeks dating yourself

Treat yourself.

Take yourself out on your perfect date. Go out to your favorite restaurant, order exactly what you want to eat. Buy yourself a new shirt or pair of shoes. Go to the bookstore and buy a new book you’re dying to read. Take yourself to a show this weekend — music, theater, comedy — whatever you love most. Go to a movie by yourself and sit in the exact seat you want to sit in. Go on an adventure to a place you’ve never been before.

 

Take care of yourself.

Go for a run. Dance when feel happy. Meditate. Cook your favorite meal. Order delivery and eat it in bed. Wake up early and read a book that has been sitting on your shelf for months. Stay up late and watch episodes of your favorite show.

 

Create yourself.

Write a blog post or facebook status. Write a short story. Take a letterpress class. Paint. Draw. Take photos. Make a short film. Learn to code. Learn a new language.  Come up with a business idea.

 

Engage yourself.

Find a friend working on a project that interests you and see how you can get involved. Volunteer in your community. Push yourself outside your comfort zone by going solo to a happy hour, party or event that sounds fun. Start a group meet-up for an activity you love like yoga, cooking, poetry, or graphic design.

See, being single isn’t so bad. If you’re in a relationship and jealous of all the fun us single people are having because we’re dating ourselves, you should be jealous. Don’t worry, it’s not permanent.
I’m not telling you to give up dating forever. I’m not telling you to abandon your life-long goal of being an amazing parent.

I’m just saying that dating yourself for a little while might help you discover who you are and what you want. It might help you stop worrying about what other people think of you and start thinking about how you want to spend your days. It might inspire you to explore a new passion or find a new job. It might give you the time to launch the project or embark on the adventure you’ve always dreamed of.

If you’re lucky, dating yourself might even bring you closer to the person you’ve been looking for.

Love / Danish :)